Who needs a therapist?

It's September, many people view this as a new year, a fresh start. I know a few people who are turning to a therapists to help in the process. It seems to work for most, which have left me to wonder...should I venture? Their claims are of being able to vent, to let it all out. The weight of their burdens have been lifted off their back. How amazing is that *sigh* But what a minute!!! I do the same thing, just not with a "therapists". I vent to the world, my way is through blogging and Twitter. Whenever I complete a post I feel so light, so happy that I'm able to tell the world how I really feel. Ditto with Twitter, it has helped me keep my sanity many a days. The continuous positive feedback is nothing short of amazing. Tweeps I have never met have given me the encouragement and confidence that a good therapists may not have been able to do.

Why not try it? You can buy some nice stilettos with the cash you can save.


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PS some people have asked me about how I blog on my iphone, I plan to do a post on this soon. stay tuned and stay Chic!

9/11

Remembering that day as if it were yesterday. I can't believe it's been eight years since that horrific event. While walking with total strangers from 43rd street in Midtown to the Bronx, I remember thinking "our world will never be the same". With the same token I was never more proud to be an American. The way people, TOTAL strangers pulled together to help one another is what I held on to that day.
Yes, there are cruel people in this world but there are also amazing people that act in heroic ways to protect one another.
God Bless America!

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Break in Case of Emergency!

I have a 2yr old son who has a speech delay. At two he has just a handful of words. Teaching him language has been on priority list for awhile. I am eternally grateful to the two wonderful teachers who come to work with him every week. I'm also fortunate to have a "family trainer" A.K.A. Nanny 911 who is helping me with his behavior issues. It seems that because he is not able to properly communicate, he gets frustrated and this effects his behavior negatively. I been working with Nanny 911 for about 2 weeks now. She is giving me tips on helping Andrew get through this hump. Lots of wonderful helpful advice but it seems the key is "redirection". Andrew is a strong willed little person. When he wants something, he will go to any length to get it. It could be punching, hitting, slapping, you get my point. Many a days have I left Target in tears because of him. It's that feeling where you want the Earth to swallow you, yeah you know. Well, she's been teaching me the art of redirection, which usually entails me keeping different things of interest in my bag when I go out, with a "break in case of emergency label". When he starts acting up and wants something, I "redirect" him by giving him something from my bag like M&Ms, or one of his favorite trains. Sound simple enough, yet I have found it to be very effective. He usually immediately transfers his attention to what I am offering him. Gosh this could possibly mean some peace for me, in the meantime I need to be redirected to the Sangria.

Stay sane and Chic everyone!

My New BFF

So I haven't been getting much sleep for awhile. It has alot to do with the 4 year old and 2 year old that sleep in our bed. I routinely wake up with an elbow in my ear or a knee in my crotch. Yes good times, will promise to delight everyone with those stories soon. Getting back to sleep, I feel like I need more than concealer. So I decided to pick up Nutritioniste Renew Anti-Puff Eye Roller. I figure $12.99 was a small price to pay to eliminate the look of dread. So I've been using for a little over a week and can say that I do see a slight difference. Although the dark circles haven't minimized as I would like them to, I do see less puffiness. If anything it's also very soothing around that delicate area around the eye. Worth a try.

One out of two problems solved, not bad. Now if I can get them in their





own bed, OMG!!


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There I said it "I want a do-over"

Yes, I said "Do-over"! It's taboo to say amongst mothers who have it all, the kids, the home and the husband. We should be grateful for what we have- isn't that what mom would tell us? But here I am screaming it to the world, "I WANT A DO-OVER!!". I have a right to feel this way. There are just those days when monotony takes over and you wonder "what if". I can't list all the missed opportunitites and sacrifices I've made for my family, they are endless. (I know cry me a river!) And it would not only be selfish but unrealistic to except the same in return. BUT I feel like I have the right to be upset sometimes. Our mothers taught us not to complain, to be happy with what we have. I can hear her clearly " mija, you know it can always be worse, just be happy". My mom, like many good Latina mamis (God bless her soul), devoted her life to her husband and her children. She never did anything for herself, which unfortunately is very characteristic of many old school Latinas. She lived to serve us. Now she lives in a nursing home suffering with Alzheimer's and I know for a fact she never lived life to it's fullest. She never did everything she wanted to do. I unfortunately have regrets for her.

So although I have some wonderful children and husband, i will be the first to admit that at times wanting a do-over does cross my mind. I want to make sure I make myself a priority, something my poor Mami never did. I will do it in her name, cause that's really the least I can do.


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Fall is in the air!

There's something exciting about Fall. Not sure if it's the new trends or the leaves falling. There's something very euphoric about the cool air and walking on leaves. Maybe it's because it reminds me of a better time in my life, a time when my biggest worry was that my clothes matched for school or if I liked my new history teacher, a subject which I dreaded. Back then I didn't realize how good I had it, how simple and beautiful life really was. Now in my thirties life is so much more complicated and although my wardrobe is still important, there are other things that





have taken it's place.
I say all this just to say how important it is to enjoy the moment. It really doesn't get better than this, so why not live it up "NOW".
I'm a work in progress, but progress is the keyword.


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Yes, you heard right $12.99

Somethings are just guaranteed. Target for me is a sure hit. I started my Fall clothing shopping for the lil ones. One of my favorite things to do is


shop for little girls, I love my boy but they're a lil boring when it comes to shopping.

Ok, so I managed to pick up a couple of ridiculously chic, tremendously adorable dresses at, yes you heard right $12.99. Seriously you can't go wrong, think I'm going back for a couple more.

Happy Shopping!


-- Yes! I posted this entire entry using my iPhone. 3 apps and a bit of creativity is all it took.

*did mention I heart my iPhone?

What's in my bag...

I'm a mom, I need to keep it simple. I usually keep my everyday makeup natural, only because I don't have the time to spend on making my face up every morning. I also think this is a blessing in disguise, cause less can definitely be more.

Here a 4 musts for my tiny makeup bag. Almost all you can get at your local CVS, with only one splurge...

* Covergirl Trueblend Liquid Makeup- its light and yes it covers nicely.

* Maybelline Superstay Gloss in Bleaming Blush, it a pretty natural pink and color lasts for hours and many kisses.

* Maybelline Great Lash in Black, I'm a big fan just Google it.

Lastly, Nars Orgasm Blush- its my splurge but it does last a long time and the color is really flattering on most skin tones. **a must in anyone's makeup bag**

Looking Chic doesn't necessarily mean spending big bucks, and a splurge here and there never hurt a soul.

Always looking for chic...........

Andrew's Milestone....argh

Spent a couple of days in Connecticut with the kids. Wanted to get to know Stamford, as I might actually be living there soon. I decided to check out Barnes and Nobles, as we frequent it for Storytime here in Long Island. Ava usually sits very attentively listening to the storyteller. Andrew on the other hand runs straight to the toy train tracks, as trains are his toy of choice. We had a successful first ten minutes until another boy decided to take his train. Andrew was not gonna take it. In a matter of seconds there were two boys intertwined and two moms pulling for dear life. These boys sadly over powered us. I didn't know which was worse the crying and screaming or the fact my two year old was stronger than me. We finally managed to go separate ways. I wanted the Earth to swallow me, as I was "that" mom no one ever wants to be. My son's first fight.....




A milestone for Andrew, Sangria time for mommy.


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